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Couples Therapy

Become “One of the Best Couples Around” This could happen. Imagine you run home, embrace your best friend, and laugh uncontrollably. You support each-other, have fun, and communicate well. You desire your partner, are desired by your partner, and experience satisfying emotional and physical closeness. Unfortunately, instead you … Learn More

Individual Therapy

If you want to: create a life that you are excited to wake up and live, express your unique purpose and gifts in the world, or develop positive, passionate, and loving relationships, individual counseling can help. People who come into therapy open up and then we discover what is really bothering them so they can make … Learn More

About Kelly

My specialties and training: I have specialized training in couples counseling subsequent to a masters and license in professional counseling. The Bader-Pearson Developmental Couples Counseling Model is the main model I work from. l have been training for over five years with Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson who designed this model. I am a … Learn More

Welcome to the Couples Counseling Journey

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I am excited for you, because likely if you are reading this you want to make some changes. There is a part of you who wants to start the journey  that will bring positive changes to your life. I commend you for taking this first step.

Identify the relationship camp you are in now

I believe there are two broad camps when it comes to marriage and committed relationships. The first is the “Ball and Chain Camp”  who just endure their marriages. You hear them complain about their partners often and they have lost touch with why they committed to their partner in the first place.

And there is a second camp which I call the “Cherish Camp” where partners enjoy and cherish each other. They are are truly better people for being in a healthy long-term committed relationship.

If you surveyed everyone on their wedding day, most would say, “Oh we will be part of the Cherish Camp for sure”. The problem is staying in this camp is not intuitive and most quickly leave it.

Poor communication, frequent arguing, and stress quickly plummet you to the Ball and Chain Camp.

Unearth the real problems

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There are predictable stages each couple goes through with their own unique style. People usually get stuck in the conflict stage.

Every relationship has conflict what you do with the conflict determines your camp. The Cherish Camp does not settle for the “Ball and Chain” mentality. They reach out and get help.

My talent is helping you unearth the real problem. Then my job is to guide you to the next healthy relationship stage.

Together we will find a way forward so you can reap the yummy benefits of staying in a happy long-term relationship. It beats the “spark” beginning honeymoon feelings any day of the week.

I can attest that I have been in a relationships with my husband for over 15 years and am crazier than ever about him. I am grateful for learning this path to the Cherish Camp.

Take the leap

You may be thinking you have tried everything, it is too late, and your partner won’t change.  Maybe your partner has had an affair, you are separated, or there is too much resentment.  I believe people can switch camps at any time of their life.  It is not too late.

You would not still be reading if there was not a part of you that had some hope. That part of you remembers why you fell in love in the first place. That part is hoping you will take the time, energy, and resources to start this journey.

I would be honored to be your guide if, just like my daughter in this photograph below, you are willing to take the leap.  It looks like a lot more fun than a ball and chain. And like my other daughter in pink, I will be cheering you on.   Complete this form today to contact Kelly.
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Serving Virginia Beach, Norfolk, Chesapeake, Hampton Roads, Portsmouth, Suffolk, Poquoson, Hampton, Newport News, Yorktown, and Williamsburg Virginia

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Virginia Beach Location

Kempsville Wellness Center
317 Office Square Lane, Suite B102
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
Phone: 757-240-3574
Kempsville Wellness Center
317 Office Square Lane, Suite B101
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
Phone: 757-240-3574

Providing couples, marriage, and relationship counseling to Virginia Beach, Norfolk, Chesapeake, Hampton Roads, Portsmouth, Suffolk, Poquoson, Hampton, Newport News, Yorktown, and Williamsburg Virginia
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